After talking to various female friends I'm not allowed to hit on people I work with who already have boyfriends. Not at all. It is forbidden.
Thus I must learn to purge away my emotions which probably isn't helped by going to see A play a gig tonight.
I'm going to try and channel Merchant and Ivory and maintain a stiff upper lip. After all it's only repression, and I'm English, it's what we do.